A Word About Romanticizing Your Life

Romanticize, romantic, romanticism, romance…they’re all naturally beautiful words, aren’t they?

As of lately, romanticize is a hot buzzword that conveys the illustration of either a person, place, circumstance, or idea in a fashion that reminds people in an idealistic, pedestalized, sometimes dream state. In other words: anything romanticized can easily be dismissed by a skeptic.

For example:

  • “Someone who has no children or husband cannot possibly be so happy. They must be crying of loneliness in the privacy of their own home.”
  • “What makes Los Angeles so great? Everybody gloats about all the hikes and celebrity spottings but not the homelessness and housing problems. Oh, and the disgustingly congested traffic!”
  • “Full-time content creation as a ‘dream job’ sounds like too much work, invasion of privacy, and volatility.”
  • “Main character energy gives people an absurd excuse to be entitled; they’re being disrespectful to other cultures when they travel or they try to outshine people on their special day (i.e. weddings, graduation, promotions, etc.).”

To be completely frank, everyone that takes issue in romanticizing anything and everything have a point. There are pros and cons to all there is in the world, including what people would consider the closest to magic (yes, love is no exception because the means to obtain true love can be a lot of work). Additionally, just because you romanticize something, it doesn’t mean it is more appealing to everybody. Romanticizing is just another wave of making something more marketable.

Me romanticizing my life in videos:

Romanticizing anything is the attempt to amplify the appealing nature of the subject. For instance, romanticizing a healthy lifestyle can work. It can captivate others to try exercising the same way or replicate the same healthy recipes. It depends on the approach you choose.

Take it from my three somewhat different types of reels:

#1: the general tone feels very energetic in a more exuberant, as if it’s trying to wake you up (think of the sun shining in your face from a dark room!). It peps you up swiftly in a somewhat sing-song way!
#2: for this reel, instead of energizing you in a bright cheerful manner, it’s a little more motivational. Overall, it feels more competitive, like a coach is pushing you to run faster or complete one more rep. “You don’t need more time! You need less distractions!” says it all.
#3: finally, this is the most mellow healthy habits reel I’ve made in the bunch. The focus is more on the visuals (“show, don’t tell”) as opposed to the music. Yes, the song amplifies the liveliness, but not in a way that determines how the clips roll. You feel eased into making healthier choices, not pushed.

Note: for the above, every viewer will tune into at least one reel, but not all. Sometimes a more aggressive approach works, whereas for others a calmer tone is ideal. And that’s what romanticizing is: a tone that enables people to look up to something and feel inspired!

Now, how can you romanticize your life? It’s pretty simple: embrace everything you feel grateful for, no matter how trivial. Yes, even a cup of coffee or opening the window to the sunrise. I wouldn’t say romanticizing your life encompasses what you already have. You can also romanticize what you want to manifest and to work towards. As cliche and cheesy as this sounds, dreams are beautiful (that’s why so many folks like me love sleep).

Examples of what secretly went awry: The lighting at night wasn’t great (go figure). I was feeling under the weather this day. I ended up changing into a pair of heels before dinner that agonized my feet a great deal. Customers kept walking in front of my camera when I filmed a full body shot. They were out of an entree we wanted to try at Plant Food and Wine.

The issue comes down to drawing the line between idealism and practicality. No, not everything that is romanticized is realistic for everyone, let alone anyone. Again, romanticizing is a marketing tool. It is vastly dependent on who you hope to inspire and what you want to gain out of this. Someone like me would not find the life of an older man talking about stoicism in a large cushion chair with a podcast microphone remotely romantic. I wouldn’t find the life of a cabin owner in the middle of the flowery woods with no wi-fi or access to the city romantic. I’m sorry, I won’t. And that’s okay! Both of these types of people have an audience that would love their life. I have my respective inspirations and romanticized life to worry about.

Lastly, I try my best not to feel jealous or even envious of others. Both are perfectly valid and normal emotions, but they shouldn’t ever overstay their welcome to the point where you lose consistency in your own path, especially where you develop self-hatred. We should have the right to embrace what we have and be capable of better outcomes for us all. Along with pursuing shadow work and deep healing, you can start with romanticizing your own life or finding inspiration.

P.S. play Neverland’s version of “A Dream is a Wish Your Heart Makes” and light a candle in your room. You’re welcome.


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