As Jane Roberts once said, “You create your own reality.” As of now, this quote has spread like wildfire. I see it everywhere on Instagram, Tumblr, Pinterest, Facebook, on the Internet, plus in others’ creations where they talk about something related to this idea. It’s so inspirational, so innovative and so healthy for spirituality. And I absolutely agree with this quote–if you consider about 97% to be absolute.
In general, I have a heavily internal locus of control. I know that there are so many things that are solely in my power. If something doesn’t go my way, the first thing I ask is what I did, whether or not it was wrong, and what I can do to change it. If I find that my drawing skills are not on par, I can retrain my sketching to make it better. If I find that I’ve gotten a bit fluffier, then I’ll drink more water, eat less salt and sugar, and get back on track. If I can’t change the situation, I know that I can choose to change my perspective on the situation. But of course, you know what they say about changing your view: easier said than done.
There are just some things in life that are bound to work against you. Not everybody is going to like you and you’re not going to succeed at everything you do. That is a fact and it’s a part of growing up and figuring out who you are. I guarantee you that you can find at least ONE thing you’re bad at, which is absolutely okay. There are hundreds of things I can’t do, but there are thousands things that I can do. I made the mistake of letting what I couldn’t control get the best of me. The social isolation and rejections I’ve experienced in the past were partially in my control because I wouldn’t reach out to people, but sometimes, no matter what I’d do, I’d just keep getting more no’s. The injustices that I see in this world were not caused by myself, but by other people who come from a place of hurt, anger, misery or evil. Sometimes it’s Mother Nature and the Earth effing us all up (earthquakes, for example). And I can’t change these situations and recreate my reality to be different.
I can’t change that climate change is a very big problem, and I can’t solve it all alone. But, I can figure out a way to lessen my carbon footprint by reducing meat consumption, water use and waste disposal. I can’t change that some of my classmates don’t like me. What I can do are two things: carve my personality to fit their needs, or stop caring about them and live how I want to live.
So to what extent can you create your own reality? You can create the people you surround yourself with by eliminating the toxic out of your life and making friends with people who help you grow and become a better person. You can work hard to improve what you need to do to succeed. You can choose to look around you, try new things and make your world a better place. But most of all, you choose to enjoy the journey, all through the good and the bad. You can create a positive reality right now. Seriously. Just be happy.