Tuesday Thoughts: What to Do When You Think Someone Doesn’t Like You

Have you ever met those people who just don’t seem to treat you…..say, the right way? I don’t know if you know what I mean, but I’m talking about those people who don’t say hi to you unless you say hi to them, those people who don’t try to sympathize when you’re openly upset about something, or those people who you’re so friendly with that they actually don’t like it. Yeah. I know that these kinds of people don’t like me, and if they’re in your life, they probably don’t like you. Thing is, they don’t want to admit it directly so they give you the cold shoulder.

You have no idea how many times I’ve dealt with these kinds of people. I dealt with them in my first musical theater summer program, at summer camps, in middle school, in other theater programs, in everyday life, and right now, for a matter of fact. They picked me last, still made fun of my appearance, declined my requests to be a part of their group or a show they were doing and basically did whatever they could to indirectly message me that they didn’t want me around. AND, I DESPISE that I felt the need to please them no matter how many times they reject(ed) me. Looking back I wish I could just slap some sense in myself because I was so dumb. But the truth of a matter is, I didn’t love myself enough to know that I wasn’t worth their time and that they weren’t worth mine. It wasn’t until I became healthier and more independent when I started to treat them the way they deserved to be treated.

Keeping this in mind, how do I deal with these people? Well, I don’t. I work on myself first, because the truth of a matter is, I am the only one who will be around for my entire life all the time. I won’t see my classmates, my teachers, my peers, or those rude teenagers loitering at the Commons my entire life. Even certain family members, but this applies when you’re a bit older and you live and work for yourself. Anyways, the more you try to be flexible towards people you know don’t like you, the more power you give them. Be successful and be happy in your own mind because they hate that. Just eliminate them from your environment–not necessary in a literal sense. Don’t talk to them, don’t stalk them on social media, don’t pry into their business. If they do reach out to you, just give them the bare minimum and go straight to the point.

People like this don’t deserve you. You don’t deserve them, either. Remember that you must only achieve the best for yourself and letting people like this will only hinder your progress. It is said that your haters would kill to see you fall. Don’t, and they’ll eventually die out of your life.


9 thoughts on “Tuesday Thoughts: What to Do When You Think Someone Doesn’t Like You

  1. I actually really do not care AT ALL what other people think about me. AT ALL. I cared SO MUCH about that when I was in high school…. And I really wish I could go back to my younger self and tell her to NOT care so much because in the end, what matters the most is that YOU love yourself… THAT IS IT! If you love yourself, you radiate that confidence and happiness, thus PEOPLE WANT TO BE AROUND YOU! I promise you, it works – I don’t believe I have any enemies at all and I think it’s because I am a very happy person, it’s infectious! Ha… That being said, you’ve met me, perhaps you don’t like me? LOL!

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    1. YES GIGI, I DON’T like you. I LOVE YOU! Hahaha, hope this doesn’t scare you too much! XD And yes, your happiness is absolutely infectious–thanks for giving it to me! 😛

      I absolutely agree with you. I wish I could tell my younger self that I shouldn’t have wasted my time trying to please everyone. Just by staying true to who I am and believing in myself, I allow the right people to gravitate to me! 🙂

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  2. How do I deal with people like that? I don’t. YESS! Love that. So glad you’re putting yourself first and reminding others to lead with self love

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  3. I use to feel the need to please everyone, but now I realize I’m simply called to love all that come into my path. AND if they choose to treat me otherwise, I can hold my head high knowing I’m living in love, and now let how they treat me affect me or bring me down 🙂

    xo

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  4. Go Cassie! You know, once I read a motivational poster that said: “haters will see you walk on water, and tell everyone it’s because you can’t swim”. It’s crazy how some people put others down just for the sake of doing it!

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